Today, I weeded the garden. Not a big deal you might say but I’d been putting it off and putting it off.
I didn’t want to do it and the weeds were growing bigger and bigger and the problem got bigger and bigger in my mind too.
Each time I left the house or came home, I would see the weeds taking over the front garden and when I looked out of the kitchen window I would see them strangling the flowers in the back garden and I would get annoyed with myself that I had not tackled the job. I would say things like “I really should pull those weeds out” or “I must do that weeding soon”. And yet saying these things were not motivating me to do the job!
3 tips to doing those jobs you don’t want to do.
- Focus on the outcome. I was thinking about the problem; the job of weeding and I was putting pressure on myself to do the work by saying “I should” or “I must”. When you change your thinking to being outcome focussed, then the job is not so difficult. I focussed on how it would be when I was able to look out of the kitchen window and see the flowers flourishing and how it would be to notice the plants when I came home rather than the weeds. When you think about the outcome, there is more motivation to get the work done.
- How can you make it easier? It was a lovely sunny day so it would be far more enjoyable spending the time in the garden today rather than another day when it is cold or wet. So I decided that it would be worth getting some Vitamin D and play some music while I was doing the job. Both of those things made it a more enjoyable task.
- Who can help or keep you company? If you can find somebody to do the work with and keep you company; that makes the job easier too. I suggested to my hubby that we could get it done twice as quickly together and then we could go and do what we wanted.
In the end, it really didn’t take very long. It was actually the thought of doing it that was worse. Once you take the first step, it’s not so bad.
What are you not doing? What are you putting off? Use these 3 tips to focus your mind on getting those things done that you haven’t got around to doing yet!
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Tracy Ward; Your Catalyst for Change